Experiencing changes can create fear, unease, or anxiety. These are typical feelings when going through a "life transition" or challenges of life. Change can be difficult for anyone, and the saying “the only constant is change“ is very true. There is uncertainty in change, and that is one of the hardest parts of change. During this time, our bodies can go into fight, flight, faint, or freeze response because change can feel threatening. However, life transitions can also cause excitement and the opportunity to dream. It is in the eye of the beholder. The key to getting through a transition is your mindset and the coping strategies you use. Here are some strategies to help you cope with life's transitions:
Self-Awareness:
Be mindful of your experience. Change is constant; it will not be the first or last time that you experience it. Moving, getting married, getting divorced, changing jobs, and starting school are all examples of change. Some we don’t even blink an eye to, and others are so overwhelming that we need more support. Being mindful of how you manage this transition will help you get through it because you can notice what worked or didn’t work about this transition and apply what you’ve learned to future transitions.
Give Yourself Space:
Allow yourself time to process your feelings related to change. People often avoid and try to distract from their feelings. Whatever you’re feeling is valid. It's okay to feel a mix of emotions. You may be feeling fine and then be hit with a flood of emotion. Spend some time again being mindful of what you’re feeling and asking yourself, “What is this feeling trying to tell me?”
Accept the Change:
This strategy is very cognitive because it is asking you to override the sensations or thoughts that may be telling you that this is overwhelming, bad, or wrong. It’s accepting what is. Recognize that change is a natural part of life. Instead of resisting it, try to accept that transitions are inevitable and can lead to growth and new opportunities. This may be easier for some to change than others, but do your best to accept what you can.
Focus on What You Can Control:
There are many parts of change that are uncontrollable, but you can try to focus on the things you can influence. Set realistic goals and take small steps toward achieving them. For example, focusing on “joy” today, drinking enough water, or cleaning your space are all things within your control. These things may not fix your situation, but they can help you feel more present.
Seek Support:
Reach out to friends, family, or a support group to share what you’re dealing with. Talking to others who have gone through similar transitions can be comforting and provide valuable insights. If you’re still feeling troubled by this change and your support system isn’t helping, then seek guidance from a therapist or counselor. They can provide valuable support and tools to help you manage the change.
Remember that everyone goes through life transitions, and it's okay to take your time adapting to the changes. Be patient with yourself and trust that, with time and effort, you will find your way through the transition and emerge stronger on the other side.
If you or someone you know needs help overcoming a transition, tackling an obstacle, and fostering a positive mindset, please do not hesitate to contact me directly or share this blog post.
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